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January, 2005

  1. date your own

    January 30, 2005 by elenamary

    El Oso asked me:

    Elenamary,

    Just outta curiosity. Is it only with Latina and Asian women that you question White guys’ intentions? And is it only White guys or would a Latino man with an Asian woman also raise your suspicions?

    Here is the response I wanted to give:

    Oso,
    I think often times, “white” men fetish-ize Asian and Latina women. There are those who date Asian or Latina women out of the fetish fantasy. There are those who date them in hopes of submissiveness. And then there are the white-peace corps sydrome* men who date minority women because while they can’t be “brown and down” they can say their partner is. I see a lot of this last type of person involved in community organizations and many times have learned a different language in order to try and show they are part of the community.
    I think minority men also attempt to use white women as trophies and/or to get into a (majority) community that keeps them out.

    This flows in terms of gender. It isn’t only men doing it. I once heard a white woman (who I work with) during a meeting say “I can be Latina, brown babies came out of me.” I’ve meet minority women who will only date white men. And of course White women who date minority men because it is taboo, it is a forbidden fruit.

    To answer your second question about do I only get suspicious with White guys the answer is no. For example I think some black guys like Latinas because they are lighter skinned and I think some Latinos date Asian women because of a similar festishization that white men have. However, if I saw a Latino married to an Asian woman I wouldn’t question it. A white man married to an Asian woman I would still question.

    [*Peace Corps Syndrome upper-middle class, suburban Whites feeling they are destined to save all the poor brown people of the world" or this kind of person]


  2. alcohol

    January 30, 2005 by elenamary

    The first time I went to Germany was on a class trip. It was a group of us and our teacher from Columbus, Ohio and a second group from St. Louis and their teacher. Our teacher had told our parents (those parents who cared) that he was not going to try and keep us from drinking alcohol while in Europe. That this was something parents needed to discuss with their children before departure. The teacher from St. Louis on the other hand was going to try and make sure none of her kids got any alcohol at all. When we went to a beer distillery (I can’t recall which one) they gave us certificates for free beverage samples at the end of the tour. She asked that they only serve us soda. How can you go on a tour of beer distillery in Bavaria, Germany and not try the beer? I’d also like to note that I visited at least three different distilleries that claimed to be the oldest beer producers in the world.

    I’ve been thinking about alcohol and such since reading Colorado LuisSaturday Beer Blogging. As I started to look for independent breweries, I thought back to my last visit with my ex Bombo. He is incarcerated in Mexico and when I visit him (particularly without Alexi) drinks are brought out and set up on a table, sometimes sent by a “friend” or “socio” of Bombo’s. I don’t know Bombo’s relationship with the person that sends me drinks and snacks but I think it is someone who is up to no good, who Bombo does work for. Anyway, last time I went some kind-of drink in a tupperware bottle was brought and Bombo asked for it to be taken away. “You won’t like it” he explained to me “It is alcohol”. “You are allowed alcohol today?” I asked knowing that on some holidays or special days the guards let the prisoners drink beer and rum. “No, this was made here.” I still didn’t understand. “What do you mean made here?” He began to explain that they took orange juice and yeast and some other “stuff” mixed it, placed it in big buckets and hid it in large pipes (I have no idea what kind of pipes or where they were) and let it “rot”. This rotting process allowed it to turn into nasty tasting alcohol—or so he said. I found this whole idea kind of funny. Why make it when you could work for one of the guards and get paid in alcohol?

    I think the only homemade “brew” I’ve ever had was in Mexico. And I am not sure exactly what I had. I will tell you people and you can help me decipher what it was.
    I went to Café Sasha. I really don’t like Café Sasha its vegetarian options are always something like “Pan Bimbo con aguacate y fríjol” 30 pesos. Man, I can make that at home but I wouldn’t want to eat it. Sometimes its other options might be something like Chinese stir fry and I have NEVER had good Chinese stir fry in Mexico. I am getting side tracked.

    I went to Sasha’s on my way home I was tired and I figured some Gringo friends of mine who were leaving town would be there for one last hurrah. I was right, I found them with their Italian friend. He was tall, really cute, stinky as all hell and could drink like no one I’ve ever meet. And while he was cute his face had that look that he had spent all 25 years of life living in excess. Sasha’s tends to attract a “I am different and unique person no one else is like me. I want friends who are just like me.” type of crowd. There are a lot of travelers who get together and will spend most of their time intoxicated or high, these people are the one’s that go to Sasha’s.
    The Italian had this small plastic water bottle, label torn off. I can’t recall what color the liquid was. He took a big swig and everyone was shocked. The bottle was passed around and tiny sips were taken. It got to me and I was told “It is good stuff. Homemade Mescaline.” I took a sip thanked them and headed home.

    Until recently, I had no idea what mescaline was. Also that couldn’t have been mescaline, right? They probably meant Mezcal, right?


  3. old-granny-punk

    January 29, 2005 by elenamary

    Back in the day when I was in high school. I’d drive down to the Firexit every night for a show, exhibit or performance. It was great. The LOD was active then, sXe was the scene. It’s funny how many kids I know who got sXe tattoos and then lost the edge. Of those I know with tats last I heard one was living on the streets of Chicago as a heroin addict, another sits in his room and gets high all day, another sells a little on the side and is often found drunk at clubs on the weekends.
    Anyway the point is things were different then, I guess. One of the things I always enjoyed at shows was playing the “slap ass” game with this guy, Seth, I had a crush on. What you do is during a concert (mind you these were in art/punk spaces so it was easier to get away with) you slap as many asses as you can without getting caught. Straight men are the easiest to slap, they never pay attention and if they feel anything they keep looking forward because they think someone just accidentally brushed against them. Straight men are worth one point. Gay men and women are worth two points. As soon as someone turns their head to see what happened or you get caught you have to start over. When I was 17 this seemed like the coolest thing ever.
    While now I think it is kind-of-lame, I admittedly still miss it or rather miss hanging out with people like Seth. Part of me thinks indie kids repeat themselves in cycles each time thinking they are the leaders of the scene.

    My friend Jason put it well,
    everyone in the so-called scene in a decade later will be living their thirtysomething episode. ‘ahh, used to like against me! well, how’s your john edwards giraffe stock doing?’ you know clearly who you are & who you are not…that’s the important thing, scene or no scene.


  4. gender schmender

    January 28, 2005 by elenamary

    Am I allowed to get pissed with my regular readers? I know that I had at least 45 regular readers read the “Animal Rights for My Pussy” entry. And how many of you left comments? NONE, Zero, Zilch! But you were all about leaving comments on the Schwanzlutscher entry. You know what my loyal readers are? You are all a bunch of Freudian phallic obsessed misogynists. As Carlos M so wisely said:

    You’re a bad, bad person! Go to your room and reflect on your lack of compassion and understanding! On your way, turn in your Progressive Badge.

    I never figured you for a closet republican :)

    /me tsks

    Well, at least my mother loves me. I am still sick with the flu. I have a fever, watery eyes, and mocos everywhere. My sweet mother made me Miso soup with thin rice noodles, tofu and seaweed. Yeah, my mamí rocks.


  5. Animal Rights for My Pussy

    January 27, 2005 by elenamary

    Disposable tampons and pads, from the first steps of their manufacture to their bitter end in a landfill, washed up on a beach, or burning in an incinerator, have a direct effect on people, generally people of color and low income communities. Factories and pulp mills where the products are made leach toxic chemicals into the groundwater and the air, causing high incidences of respiratory illnesses and other diseases, especially in children and the elderly. The chlorine bleaching process produces dioxin as a byproduct, a known carcinogen. Factories release arsenic, barium and other heavy metals. from Tampacation.

    I’ve been using del.icio.us and haven’t quite yet figured out how to add it to the sidebar of movable type. Anyway, I bring you ladies a special entry.
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    That my dears, is a Chastity Belt in honor of Chastity Awareness Week it isn’t until May (and only celebrated in Pennsylvania). But ladies I say we celebrate it by inserting a “Diva” or a “Keeper” or the disposable Instead Soft Cup into our vaginal openings. (The Softcup can be used during sex too without getting menstrual fluid everywhere!)

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    I’ve read that the Diva Cup feels better because it is silicone instead of rubber like the Keeper. I am hoping to buy one in the next couple weeks and would love to hear what you ladies think of them if you have them. I’ll let you know what I think. And then of course there are the re-useable menstrual pads. I think I might get a couple of those too.

    Some of you may be wondering what is wrong with pads or tampons you get at the store. First let me address the cultural issue between the two. In general Mexican women (and I am talking about from Mexico not Chicanas) use pads instead of tampons. Using tampons is seen as a “dirty” and “sexually promiscuous”. I had to explain this to some people at the clinic. They didn’t understand why the women didn’t use tampons. I am not saying that it is dirty or reflects promiscuity. I am just saying it is something health workers should be aware of when working with a different culture.

    Then there is the hygiene and safety issue. To see why they are unhealthy for you and your vagina check this link.


  6. life update

    January 26, 2005 by elenamary

    I have the flu and feel like crud. Yesterday, feeling really bad, I was driving to the student health center with Miles and Zach Starkey. These two are the loudest craziest people I know. To top it off Miles found in my car (I am not saying how it got there) a Kris Kross: Totally Krossed Out cassette tape. I felt so sick but those boys make me laugh hard, it was good for the soul.

    I have a story for all you. There is this guy I like, mostly I thought for his entertainment value. I was up front with him about using him for comic relief. But, I think I may be getting a tiny little crush! And the weirdest thing made me get a crush. His daughter. Maybe that is what it really is, I have a crush on his daughter. I heard her in the background and my uterus pulsated. Actually, I know the moment my crush happened. It was when I heard him call her “mi’ja”. It is such an endearing term, such a loving term, such a simple term. It is something I culturally am missing. ¿Con quien voy a hablar en español? Or when he told me how he practically had a shrine set up for his daughter when he was working out of state, who understands that? I never realized until very recently that Alexi never saw a family-home-alter when we were in Mexico. Never saw a shrine set up for anyone. (I set one up for him when he was China. Never told him. I lit candles, put pictures of him, drawings of la virgen, Greek evil eye, Greek coins, a komboloi.)

    Anyway, maybe it really isn’t a crush I am developing but rather acknowledgement of two things I want, children and other Chicanos.
    The blogosphere has helped me connect with other politically aware Chicanos. I’ll be going home to Mexico soon and see my friends that will help too. As for Children I just need to wait a little more until med school, now is not the time.
    El Oso will be proud. I think I am going to ask the Jock Desi to work out with me. Since he enjoys lifting weights so much maybe I can get him to lift weights with me on Saturday’s the only day I don’t work out.
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