Anyway, I wonder if there isn’t something else affecting the male libido after childbirth. Men’s sex drives are much more seasonal and hormonal than we ever admit. Sometimes some of us are good to go three or four times a day .. and other times, celibacy for three or four weeks.

A few studies have been done which suggest that men’s hormones undergo changes during their partner’s pregnancy. Or maybe it’s the mother’s sex drive that goes up after giving birth and the guys just can’t keep up.

anyway, wanted to comment the following on your very interesting post!

oh I don’t necessarily agree with this article—my husband is as big of a pervert as the next man, and i don’t think even today he has registered that our kids came out of my vagina–even though as my daughter’s head was crowning, the nurse asked him what he was thinking and his reply was (in the most awed, i am in church experiencing a jesus moment voice) “it’s so beautiful!”(we didn’t know if she was a boy or girl)

I think that women worry too much that their partners are looking at their vaginas as opposed to the child during birth–and I think articles like this feed into the paranoia. I mean, the men that a therapist is going to work with are not necessarily the healthiest men in society after all.

when you are in the birthing room, the intensity of the situation of birth pretty much makes you (and everybody in the room) forget anything but that little wet head that is emerging so frustratingly slow– and what kind of body/personality/gender/life the body behind the head holds.

Don’t forget, men have been waiting just as long as women to see that kid, and they also don’t have the physical connection to the kid that women do, so in the cases where I have been in the room for a birth, or in the case of my own births, I have seen men get so excited they almost pass out. And in one birth, a father got to ‘catch’ the kid as he came out of his mother, and that father counts that moment as the most special moment of his life.

Don’t under estimate men mujer(in other words, count that article as representative of societies displeasure with a birthing woman’s body, not as representative of an individual man)–sure there’s a lot of pigs out there, but birth has the power to change even the piggiest of pigs, I swear!!! (which I guess I should acknowledge that all is not always perfect in birthing rooms–but for the most part, from what I have seen (I have been in the room for 5 births and birthed two of my own)men have been generally loving and supportive, and not in the least bit phased by the connection of the sexual vagina with the birthing vagina…)

anyway, i’m finished with my rambling bad spelling talk~!