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  1. Humor

    December 11, 2011 by elenamary

    I try to tell people interested in interpreting, that knowing a language isn’t achieved by knowing a vocabulary.  Knowing a language is cultural, it is becoming the language, being part of the ethos, it  is a change in personality and perspective.
    Humor is a great identifier of ones culture.  I always realize how I am not so american when I watch American comedies and how I am even less Mexican than I like to think I am when I watch Mexican comedies.

    I suck at pop culture. Both Mexican and American. I’ve never seen Star Wars, Pulp Fiction, American Idol and rarely get the references made in American comedies like The Simpsons.  When I watch or listen to Mexican comedies it is even worse.  El Chavo del Ocho doesn’t make me laugh.  I can’t stand La Familia Peluche and have never once laughed during it.  At least with American comedies I sometimes laugh.  However, in both situations I feel a disconnect especially with people around me who look like the are about to lose bladder control from the laughter.  I’ve been watching a lot of Mexican stand-up comedy and joke telling as of late. I feel overwhelmed by a sense of disconnect and sadness.  I am not really Mexican. I don’t laugh at all and it makes me feel like a failure as a Mexican.  I understand what is supposed to be funny but I don’t find it funny.  I attempt to analyze what it is I am missing.

    On the rare occasions I do find a Mexican comedy funny, moments after my laughing as ceased, I realize that my laughter happened naturally and I feel a sense of belonging.   Below is a clip from a vulgar, Mexican comedy show.  I laughed and enjoyed it and was pleased with my enjoyment.  Additionally, here is a link to a blog post by a British friend of mine.  She writes about Americans (and my) inability to comprehend dry wit or sarcasm…although I like to think I prefer dry humor to slapstick.

    A funny political aside: my mother who has lived in the the United State for 30+ years now, was flipping through the channels and stopped at a speech being given by Rick Perry.  She listened attentively and then looked at me for a cue and asked “Is he real? Or is this The SNL?”   She wasn’t sure if she was supposed to be laughing.


  2. work and play

    February 5, 2011 by elenamary

    El Oso referred to me as being lazy.  I am not lazy but rather I take great pleasure in enjoying every minute of life to its fullest.  I guess when I refuse to ever work a 30+ hour work week it may seem kind of lazy.  Only once in my life have I ever had a 40 hour work week.  It was an office desk job dispatching interpreters.  I liked that I got to talk to different people from different countries, different life experiences, different languages, then my own.  What I didn’t like was working 5 days a week 8 hours a day.  When do people who do this live?  Especially, those with commutes.  Let’s say it takes you an hour each way and you take an hour lunch (not included in your 8 hour work day) this means your work day just went from 8 hours to 11 hours. For those of you who live in places like Ohio, during these 11  hour work days, when do you actually get to see the sunlight let alone enjoy it?

    The one time I had that 40 hour a week job, I found myself  telling my employer I couldn’t do it.  They dropped me down to 32 hours a week.  I tried it and had to again explain  I couldn’t do this.  They dropped my hours to 27 hours a week, the minimum allowed that still permitted me to receive benefits.  I tried it and found myself turning in my two week notice.

    I have three main objectives in the work I do.  Firstly, I must not be negatively impacting the world and must be hopefully positively impacting the world.  For example a job at walmart or the border patrol would be a job that negatively contributed to society. Secondly, work cannot take up my life.  I did take a job recently that I love(d) where I worked 40hours a week in 3 days but only worked every two weeks.  I got all my work done at once, had enough money to pay my bills and travel…but the time I worked did not greatly effect my free time. The opportunity cost of my free time is rather high.  Thirdly, I must enjoy my work.  Enjoyment for me varies. Challenges can be enjoyable, positively impacting the world I live in is also very enjoyable and highly fulfilling. Back in the states what did I do with all that free time?  I went to the gym, library, hung out with friends, traveled and enjoyed life.

    Now in China I am continuing the enjoyment of the short stay I have on this planet.   On my run today I enjoyed the weather and sunshine to its fullest. It is winter here and the temperature today was 74F (during February the average high in Haikou is 72.1F ).  After my run  I stopped my brother’s apartment who noted the temperature as well and said “This is why I moved to Hainan”   I haven’t been able to stop thinking about that sentiment.

    It is also why I moved here.  For those back home who discouraged my move to China, your high today is 33F and you probably won’t see the sun.  I am happy here and loving it.


  3. dots, feathers, and oh my

    December 1, 2010 by elenamary

    I received an invite to a  “Whiskey Drinking” party. Who doesn’t love whiskey? I said yes, to the invite, as I do to just about every Facebook invite I get, and didn’t pay to much attention to the rest of the invitation.

    My friend later told me that she too had been invited but that she didn’t want to attend the party because “They are inviting people to dress up as Pilgrims and Indians. I don’t want to go to a party where people are dressed-up as Indians and putting their hands to their mouths and making ‘woo’ ‘woo’ sounds.  It is racist.    I told my friend hosting it that I was uncomfortable with it and she told me that I could dress as a turkey.  I tried explaining this didn’t address the issue of racism.”

    I could see how my friend thought the party was racist but it didn’t quite hit me until I saw the pictures.

    It was when I saw the pictures that I realized “Holy shit! My friends threw a whiskey drinking party, during thanksgiving weekend, handed out face paint as well as construction paper for paper feather headbands. When did it ever become okay to put paint on your face for enjoyment at the expense of an oppressed group?“   When I expressed my concern to some of those in attendance I got different responses; “Well, some people were making fun of thanksgiving so they also added small pox face paint” or that face painting to be like another ethnicity was about as similar to my rainbow party costume, “It’s about as cool as dressing as a rainbow“, or that “Nobody actually *dressed* as indians, they put on construction-paper headbands and facepaint, kindergarten-style.”

    Adding small pox does not take away the pain of painting yourself to represent an ethnicity or race. Comparing a rainbow during a political demonstration bringing awareness to bikes,  to a hipster in a gentrified neighborhood dressed as a “Indian” during Thanksgiving lacks understanding  of  the oppression, genocide and overt and covert racism.   One of the party hosts tried to explain to me why she party’s this way: “I celebrate Thanksgiving because it reminds me to be thankful for my wonderful friends, and whiskey, and a sense of humor, and facepaint, danceparties, music, old warehouses, and good times. Enough said.”

    I am not chastising my friends for having fun, or dancing, or drinking, I love all these things (who doesn’t?!) I want people to have a good time, to acknowledge our childhood memories.  However, some of the things we did as children were hurtful, we weren’t wrong as children, we were children, we didn’t know better.  We know better now.
    I guess my friends just don’t get it. I don’t know how to help my friends understand that their partying, like this, hurts me and offends me.  Not only are they not trying to understand the pain caused, they are looking forward to the next event:

    “Private party hosted by my girlfriend and some other friends. The original wild turkey pilgrims and Indians party was 3 years ago in Italian Village. It took place in Franklinton this weekend but not associated with any group or organization. I had a blast and look forward to 2011′s.”

    Don’t get me wrong, I love my friends, if you asked them if racism was something we should tolerate they would all disagree.   I just don’t know how to get them to see how their own actions are hurtful and racist.  Maybe in June, we can hold a Juneteenth party, and put on black face, and drink forties, or if people are uncomfortable with that we can offer that  they dress as watermelons?


  4. White Man’s Burden, Again

    November 16, 2010 by elenamary

    I first blogged about this in 2004.

    This happens to me every year, and every year I get angry.

    Every year some self-righteous white man, feeling empowered with his white man’s burden, asks me to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich for a homeless person.

    Today I was asked “Don’t you want to put a smile on a homeless child?” My response, “Do you really want to engage in that question with me?” He said “No”.  Smart man. But I informed him it was too late because he had already started talking.

    You see there are soooo many issues with it. The homeless shelters prefer the cans of peanut butter, jelly and bread, more than they prefer receiving a soggy sandwich.  The shelters in fact, have requested that sandwiches not be donated .   Making soggy sandwiches does not recognize nor bring awareness to any real issue surrounding homelessness, or hunger.   Rather, it counter serves  in that it gets privileged students to believe that they have now done a good deed and addressed the issue when at best they’ve wasted resources and instilled a false sense of positive contribution.

    It was infuriating to see the students buying coffees from inside the Wexner Center in order to stay warm while standing in the street making soggy sandwiches to put into Ziploc bags.   Take that coffee money, take your time, take those Ziploc bags and plastic gloves, and put it elsewhere where it can be less destructive.  What would be even cooler and better yet is if you did something that addressed the real issues of hunger in this country.


  5. Columbus Rocks!

    October 14, 2010 by elenamary

    Today, I was at a conference and got a sense that those in HR at some pretty large organizations don’t realize how much of an easy sell Columbus, Ohio is.

    We rock.  Seriously, here is my Thursday of which I’ll only to be able make it to those things starred.

    *8am-4pm Ohio Hispanic Leaders Conference (where Mayor of Columbus, Mike Coleman, showed up and blasted Arizona’s racist laws—love him!)       Left the conference on bike and rode through the Short North Arts District to my house and passed Mayor Coleman on High Street where he was in a pedicab.

    330pm Triathlon Run Practice

    445pm-12am Triathlon Hay Ride, Pumpkin picking, Bonfire etc.

    *6pm-9pm Columbus Underground Happy Hour at Z Cucina.

    *7pm-930pm  Bad Movie Night at Junctionview.

    9pm-11pm  Joke Jams (Stand-up comedy) at Kafe Kerouac.

    *9pm-2am Pierced Arrows/Sandwich/The Ferals (Indie Punk Rock Music) at The Summit.

    *10pm-1130pm Radical Movie Night presents, Female Trouble at the Sporeprint Infoshop.

    Of course there are lots of other venues with music and art tonight, but the list above are solely the things I’m interested in attending today that I didn’t have to research.  I know for example if I looked at the Wexner Center’s page, they are almost assuredly showing an international indie film that I’d enjoy seeing, but for me it is better to not know what I am missing, and enjoy what I can.

    I take it to heart when people bad mouth Columbus, we have a lot to enjoy in this city…my problem is never finding what to do, but time to fit in everything I want to do.


  6. I betcha I can do it better

    June 9, 2010 by elenamary

    Dearest SergDun,

    My friends and I would like to challenge you to a Tamale Day Off.  You seem a little cocky in your Tamale Day Bitch! post and we thinkknow we can do better.  We will even make our meat tamales outside in the backyard on a fire if need be (we don’t allow meat production in the house).  Yes, my white vegan Ohio friends and I the lone Mexican, can make better tamales than you.  We might even I think make better brew, as we do love to ferment beverages!  You bring on the rules and we will take the challenge.  I also think we should include desserts in the competiton but again I’ll let you and your friends decide the rules so as to give you a fair chance of not failing.

    Love,

    Elena Mary